Stop Creating Your Own Hell!

And Live in the World You Want to Live In!

In today’s time, it’s pretty normal for one to look in on someone else’s life and get jealous or to notice each and every flaw we have in our own lives. Especially with social media being such a prevalent part in our society, it’s hard to not compare your worst days to someone’s best days. Or to compare your normal body to the body of someone who has had a lot of work done to get it to look like a “perfect body.” We get it! It’s hard to see the positive when the world is so full of negatives. We’re living in the wake of a global pandemic, there’s been so much political fighting, and people are restless. It can be extremely easy to get into the global mindset of negativity.

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But here’s a major secret to living your best life.

It may seem incredibly simple, but it’s oh so important. When you first hear about it, you may laugh. But once you start living your own life and the concept “clicks”, you’ll be upset you didn’t change your mindset sooner. The secret: We live in a world we create for ourselves. Absolutely no one is stopping you from living a different life. YOU choose the house you buy or the apartment you rent. YOU choose the clothes you put on every day. YOU choose the jobs you apply for. YOU create and craft your life into how you want it to look every day. And while it may not be easy to change, YOU have the power to change your immediate environment and lifestyle any time you want. You are not trapped in a bad life. And if you are living in Hell, it’s time to change that. YOU can grab the reins of your life and take control. I promise, it’s possible, and it’s necessary if you’re unhappy.

Unfortunately, I have seen so many people living miserably. They sit in their homes, focus on each and every negative aspect they can find, and stew in misery. Happiness is a state of mind. So is misery. I’ve seen couples going through a divorce, which, yes, definitely isn’t fun for anyone. But rather than seeing them try to work out their differences and split their assets, I’ve seen them purposefully make it harder. I’ve seen them stay living together when they should flee! I’ve seen them pick fights with their ex-partner just to create chaos instead of accepting the much harder path of forgiveness and moving forward.

If you’re focused on pointing out every bad thing that arises, you are creating your own hell. If you’re focusing on bad things that happened ten years ago, you are, again, creating your own hell! I’m not saying it’s easy to just change your mind set on the flip of a dime, but you’re not helping anyone- least of all yourself- by starting fights for no reason, creating chaos, and building patterns of negativity in your life. So, what can you do about it? Well, first, STOP CREATING YOUR OWN HELL!


How to Better Your Life

Change your mindset one baby step at a time! Instead of lighting the fires of your anger or feeding your depression, when you get a negative thought, just breath through it and dismiss it. Instead, train your mind to jump to a positive. When you think “Oh, that makeup looks terrible.”, instead of feeding that judgement, direct your thought over to, “Wow, that’s brave that she tried something new.” And try to feed that thought. It’s not easy. I struggle with this, too. But by training the mind to think on the good, a whole new world will open up for you. One that will click into place, and you’ll be much happier. You’ll be able to walk outside and easily see the beautiful colors that our world has to offer rather than focusing on how dirty the sidewalk is.

Then, start making larger steps forward. If you find yourself unhappy in your life, change it! Change might be scary, but it’s important for our cycle of happiness. If you don’t like where you live, move! I don’t care if it will be a lot of work. Think about how much happier you will be in a home that feels like a home to you. If you’re not happy in your space, nothing will make it better unless you take an initiative to make it so. If you’re unhappy in your job, get a new job! I know it’s easier said than done, but start applying for new work while still working your old job. Make the transition easy. When you find the perfect new job, leave your old one. Again- there are so many things WE CONTROL in our lives that we don’t even realize. By living in a dream home, by finding that perfect job for you, by changing our bad patterns, we create our own heaven on earth. So, please, stop creating your own hell. Stop picking fights and seeing the bad everywhere, and, instead, see the beauty all around you. Your mindset really does craft the reality you live in. And once you realize that, your life will change for the better.

Malorie Mackey

Malorie Mackey is an actress, published author, and adventurer based out of Los Angeles, California. Throughout her experiences, Malorie found a love for travel and adventure, having journeyed to over a dozen countries experiencing unique locations. From the lush jungles of the Sierra Madre mountain range to the Arctic Circle in Finnish Lapland, Malorie began adventuring and writing about her unique travels. These travel excerpts can be found on VIVA GLAM Magazine, in Malorie’s Adventure Blog, in Malorie’s adventure show “Weird World Adventures” and in the works for her full-length travel book. Stay tuned as Malorie travels the world bringing its beauty and wonder to you.

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